|Surviving Middle School|
||Whether it is your child’s first year at Dartmouth Middle or it is his or her second or third year, ready or not, adolescence has hit your child. It wasn’t too long ago to remember the sweaty palms, the constant feelings of insecurity, and the horrible fear of saying or doing something embarrassing. There were times where being seen with your parents was the worst thing ever and now…you are the Embarrassing Parent. Your child is now becoming a teenager and it is important to remind yourself that adolescence is a time or turmoil. Kids often times reject parent values in order to experiment finding their own identity but the more you can support your son or daughter through this developmental period, the easier it will be towards adulthood. Here are some things parent can do for their child:
1. Keep your patience. Although kids can seem rude or disrespectful, remember your child is just trying to make sense of all the changes going through their bodies. If you can’t respond to your student in a calm and respectful way, take some time apart and chose a better time to communicate.
2. Show interest in your child’s hobbies and interests. Even though they might pretend that their friends are more important than you, remember that they are constantly seeking your approval.
3. Maintain a well-structured schedule. We all respond better when we know what to expect and children are the same way. Try to establish routines in the house. Specify the times your child should be doing homework, or pick days when chores need to be completed. This way you don’t always have to remind your child what he or she needs to do and you can avoid being the nagging parent.
Most importantly try to be as consistent as you can with your child. It is much easier to give in to your student’s complaints, but if you set a standard right from the start, the easier it will be for you and your family in the future.